They say that the number one issue couples fight about is money. Yes, I can imagine that’s true in most relationships. Not mine. What do we fight about? Where we’re going to eat. Here is a typical dialog:Him: Should we go get something to eat?
Me: Sure!
Him: Where would you like to go?
Me: I don’t care.
We have had this exact conversation so many times, we could just hold up flash cards.
Him: Pick a place…I don’t want to drive around.
Me: I’ll eat anywhere.
This is where he pulls out his trump card.
Him: Fine, then we’ll go to Hooters.
I play along. I know he’s bluffing.
Me: I don’t want to go to Hooters!
Him: You said you didn’t care where we eat, so we’re going to Hooters.
Me: They don’t even have good food.
Him: I know.
Me: Okay, how about Chinese?
Him: I had Chinese for lunch yesterday.
Me: See! I made a suggestion and you shot it down.
I’m in full sulk-mode now.
Him: Make another one.
Me: No, I don’t want to.
He tries another tactic.
Him: Fine, we’ll stay home and I’ll make myself a bologna sandwich.
Ha! This is really feeble. We don’t even eat bologna.
Me: Okay, I’ll come up with three places and you can choose one of them. The first one is….
Him: Wait, I know where we should go!
Me: (silence)
A therapist would probably say that we aren’t really fighting about where to eat just as money fights are not about money. I don’t really care. We have been doing this dance for years…and I’m sure if I mentioned finding something else to fight about, his first words would be “Fine, pick something.”
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